Contemporary women often juggle careers alongside personal and societal expectations for childrearing, in order to "have it all". This kind of balancing act could have downstream effects on the kinds of men (both partners and sons) women prefer to have in their lives. Across four studies (N = 746), we assessed women's long-term mate preferences and, in the final study, their preferred traits in future sons. Consistent with the idea that young women are interested in partners who might help relieve the "second shift" pressure, women display a preference for family- vs. career-oriented men (Studies 1-3) and men with equivalent levels of communal and agentic traits (Study 4). In contrast, women's preferences for traits in sons are highly male stereotypic: They want sons who are significantly more masculine than feminine, and significantly more masculine than their partners (Study 4). Although we have not yet tested why women show discrepant preferences for gendered traits in potential sons compared to the potential fathers of those sons, our findings have interesting implications for changing gender role expectations in men if women seek balanced mates but raise highly masculine sons.