The term “best practices” is used heavily in librarianship, including within research data management support. While following best practices can help ensure a person is appropriately and ethically managing their data and meeting benchmarks, the term itself can have a negative effect on a researcher who lives with anxiety and/or panic disorders. In this lightning talk, I reflect on how small changes in our language within data management consultations can create more inclusive, welcoming learning environments. Data management is difficult, and for many people, they aren’t taught these concepts in their coursework. For a person living with anxiety, hearing the term “best practices” can add additional barriers to adopting data management into their workflow, especially if they cannot meet those best practice standards. RDM librarians have an incredible opportunity to make small changes to their language within data consultations to create a more welcoming community around data management education.